Blissalicious Blog

 

One of the things that brings me a lot of bliss is having a sense of space.  Being autistic and quite sensitive (ie acutely aware of everything!!) ‘having enough space’ is a necessity for my overall wellbeing.  I simply don’t function without it.

Without a sense of space, it feels like my whole world collapses into a tiny claustrophobic box that is about to suffocate me. I lose the sense of being me. Do you know what I’m talking about?

I am also discovering my need for space becomes greater as I become more acutely aware of the thoughts, feelings and emotions of other people. So as I expand my psychic awareness of everything in the universe, I require a lot more space!  

I used to be able to create space by immersing myself in a nurturing physical space such as nature or a calm dark room with no stimulation.  These tools still work, but not nearly as well as they used to!

No More Space Invaders!

A couple of weeks ago I was at an Access Consciousness™ class in a remote part of beautiful New Zealand where there was lots of space (that's a picture of the gorgeous beach at the Carrington Resort above).  And yet I still felt like I was in that tiny box! It sent me into a mini-meltdown as I couldn't stand to be near almost anyone, despite the space and beauty around me!! Truly!! How does that work?

And just yesterday some selfish and insensitive people sat right on top of me in a café that had plenty of other seating choices - it made me more than a little cranky!  I had just been for a beautiful walk in Noosa National Park and felt as big as the universe… until they and their small minds thoughtlessly invaded my space!  

Being as aware as I am, space invasion mostly feels like a daily occurrence to me. (Quietly hides under covers in dark bedroom while wanting to scream...)

So what could change this? 

We identify this need for space as physical, emotional or mental and we usually go searching for solutions in those areas, often with little success.

After the mini-meltdown in New Zealand I discovered (thanks to the magical Dr Dain Heer) that if I ask ‘How much space can I occupy?’ and then ‘How much MORE space can I occupy?’ at least 10 times or so, the energy will lighten up and I will feel a lot less like my space is being invaded and a lot more like ME!  

Dr Dain explained that anywhere that I feel like my space is contracted is where I have made my energy as small as the people I am around.  Oops! That would be me being cute but somewhat insane!! 

Now that I am aware that my universe is a whole lot bigger than most people’s, I am much more able to be around people without feeling tiny and insignificant and squashed and suffocated!  You see, none of that contraction is actually mine… a quick return to sender is definitely in order!! And conscious awareness of bliss becomes mine once more!

What else is possible? 

You’ll need to be on our email list to find out!  I’m gifting a heap of new ideas and possibilities to BlissTribe subscribers over the next few months as we start to evolve BlissTribe into a community that creates greater and different choices in the world!

What other topics would you like me to explore? Drop me a line or comment below!

xox Lisa

 

Over the past few years I have slowly learned to be a whole lot kinder to myself.  Instead of making myself wrong for everything, beating myself up for what I haven't done or berating myself for what I should have done but didn't, I've been discovering what it could be to be kind and nurturing to me.  And truly - it has been quite a trip!  I had no idea I was so unkind... to me!

To change this requires a level of vulnerability that we rarely gift ourselves with.   To be kind and nurturing to ourselves, we have to connect with who we truly be.  And that being is a beautiful, vulnerable, aware bundle of energy who is always doing the best they know how.

But mostly we don't want to believe that... we want to believe we are some f***ed up insane idiot that doesn't have a clue.  I'm here to tell you - that could not possibly true... you would not have found yourself reading this if it was...

When we get really vulnerable with ourselves we become willing to look at all of us... even the bits we have kept hidden because we thought they were just far too wrong for anyone to see, including us.  Oops! Lately I've been playing with discovering some more of the 'hidden bits'... and I've seen over and over that underneath everything there is just joy, ease and peace... the building blocks of bliss!

What if we could just be with what is? With no point of view?  Just you, being you... without any judgment... without buying anyone elses interesting point of view about who you are or who you should be... Would that create something totally different in your universe?  Go play just for a day or two... and let us know what shows up for you!

xox Lisa

 

It’s been a while since I’ve written about the burnout beastie, apparently today is the day! 

In this moment far too many people that I care about are fighting the burnout beastie… and something needs to change!  

I’ve have fought the burnout beastie a few too many times and I’ve come out the other side every single time – knowing more, being more and having greater awareness than I believed possible. If, today,  you are sitting on the edge, going ‘wtf?’, I have written this for you.  Sense it as a big energetic hug that can change everything in an instant!

The burnout beastie sneaks up on you, stealthily turning a once joyful life into a shattering string of ‘Who am I and is this all there is?’ moments of overwhelm and despair.

In the worst of those times, I remember hanging on by a thread, waking up every morning, wondering if the thread would hold another day.  Wondering if it would be easier to just quietly, gently let go and allow the sad little burnout shell that was pretending to be me to just disappear into the nothingness…

I remember not being able to keep myself upright for more than about 3 hours at a time and continually going back to bed and crying for no reason except total exhaustion. I remember not being able to remember the beginning of the sentence or what I was talking about, being so incoherent that I could barely answer basic ‘yes or no’ questions… Questions like ‘would you like some chocolate?’ were pretty much beyond my cognitive capacity to deal with (difficult to believe now I know!)  It's a scary thing being 40 and seriously wondering if you have Alzheimers...

And I remember being extremely unhappy... (actually, let's not mention unhappy...it reminds me of being unhappy.)

It's been almost 5 years now since that was me. Most of all I remember wondering how the hell I had created such a mess and being terrified that it was never going to change. The burnout beastie had me so fried that I couldn’t decide if I should check-in to a psychiatric hospital or check-out… permanently.  I am so grateful that my decision-making capacities were non-existent at that time. So grateful that I had disabled myself to such a degree that I literally had no capacity to choose anything except to just BE!

Despite my total incapacity, somewhere inside I knew that neither of those choices could create the different possibility I was truly desiring, that had got me into this mess in the first place! And I knew that something had to change – massively.

What’s funny about burnout is that we always want the world outside to change.  We want the world to conform to our awareness of what could be possible… and we want to take everyone we know with us… the burnout beastie shows up when we are doing so much to create change that we can no longer just BE.

It’s our addiction to creating change and generating greater possibilities in other people that wears us out and takes us from being a catalyst for change, into a 'human doing' that desperately requires change.  People who get burnout are never happy with the status quo.  We know we have the potency to create a different reality and we want it now!  It’s how we go about it that sends us into the arms of the burnout beastie.

We tell ourselves a grand story about how much we care and how much we need to do to enable those around us to have different choices, mostly because they can’t see what we can (that bit could be true … they often can’t… or maybe they just don’t choose to?)

I bought this big fat burnout beastie lie for a long time.   How could things change if I wasn’t there? Always being the catalyst, always being there for other people, always making it easy for everyone… except the one person who needed it most… ME!

Well, when the burnout beastie comes to visit, you can’t be that for other people anymore… you don’t have it in you! There is no steam left to power the train!!  It’s over baby… you are officially on the intensive care ‘do not disturb’ list… until you change you… until you start caring for you… until you start feeding and nurturing the amazing being that is you. There is nothing for you to do except be.

It’s a hard pill to swallow.  You don’t want to know that all of the people you have been the catalyst for will finally have to make their own choices and create their own possibilities.  Some of them will, some of them won’t.  And it’s not your job to change that.  You are the catalyst – you got the steam train running in some new directions… what they do with that energy is their choice – not yours.

So is now the time to put down all of the beasts of burden you are carrying around…  is now the time to look at what would truly work for YOU… and to actually just BE the possibilities you are aware of, rather than dragging the unwilling along for a bumpy ride down a dead-end track?

Yes, I know… you have a whole lot of “shoulds, have to’s and must do’s” and 'oh but's'  running around in your head right now.  You can’t possibly stop this now… there are people relying on you, you need the money… life won’t be worth living if you give up the thing you most want to create…

Every excuse you can come up with I have tried… and tried… and tried… and what you need to know is that the burnout beastie is now driving the train… and he doesn’t do train tracks… there are no refueling stops… so you are on a collision course to nowhere – unless you change something fast.

So this is what you are going to change.  You are going to start sensing what you truly desire and you are going to start nurturing you first, before anything… or anyone else.   That’s it.  Turn off the phone. Cancel stuff.  Change stuff… do whatever it takes to boot out the burnout beastie – it’s time to refuel. 

If you're not sure what refueling looks like... here are three of my favourites:

• Snuggle up with someone or something you adore...(even if it is a teddy bear or your dog!) ...stop thinking... allow peace to infuse your universe and just BE.
• Laugh.  Words cannot express how grateful I am for the friends who made me laugh and laugh and laugh until I cried during the darkest of those burnout beastie days... they literally saved my life.
• Play.  Oops... you've forgotten what that is like haven't you!  Find a small child who has total delight in their universe and rediscover a whole new universe of just being...
  

If you were choosing for you today, what would you choose?

This is not the end.  It is just the beginning.

Love you! xox Lisa

P.S.  When I removed the burnout beastie from my life I lost the person I thought I had to be... and I became the person I could BE - the one that truly could change anything... just by BEING... what if that could be possible for you?

 

What if you stop fixing you and start living... expanding, creating, generating, expressing, being, caring, contributing...?

What else could be possible?  You are amazing just as you are... and what else would you like to have??

Image: Pinterest

 

This morning I went for a swim in the sparkly turquoise ocean at Noosa… the beach was quiet and once out beyond the first set of crashing shore breaks the peace and stillness was stunning!  I had no head chatter; I was immersed in the subtle sounds of the ocean being the ocean… and it was bliss!

And it got me pondering how rarely I have this stillness inside my mind, and how often we think that we are everything we are thinking!!  Besides being in nature, those times of stillness and internal peace mostly come from two places for me… getting my Bars run (oh beautiful thing!!) and returning to sender all of the thoughts, feelings and emotions that are not mine (that would be 99.99999999% of the head chatter – gone - instantly!)

We have been trained to identify with all of these thoughts, feelings and emotions as if they are us… but what if they are simply clouds floating by that are nothing to do with who we truly be? 

What if we could allow them to float on through our minds without attaching any conclusions, any significance or any trauma and drama to any of it?  Would there be more peace, more stillness and more space to become aware of the bliss that is available to us in the moment?

So this week I’m returning to sender every thought, feeling or emotion that I am aware of that is not mine… what if we could have way more space in our minds?  Would this create the peace and awareness of possibilities we are so often looking for?

(In case you are wondering...'Return to Sender' is one of the many practical tools I use from Access Consciousness to create ease and joy in my daily living.)

(Image thanks to Pinterest)

 

‘What if everything you have been judging about you is everything that is wonderful about you?’  Dr Dain Heer

I have just been to 9 days of the Access Consciousness Beyonds classes.  On day 4, Gary Douglas asked us ‘what is different for you so far?’  What I saw for myself was that for the first time ever, there was no wrongness in my universe… I was at total peace with everything… there were things I could choose to change… or I could just be at peace with them.  There was no judgment of me in my universe!

Just a sense of gratitude and space for all that I was able to be right now… whilst still knowing how much more could be possible if I am willing to choose it.  WOW – what a phenomenal space to be in!  

There were so many spaces where I saw that I had made myself wrong when actually those were the very things that make me the delicious decadent ME that I be!  Once I gave up the judgment and wrongness, all that was left was joy, bliss and a sense of possibility that continues to expand!  How does it get better than that???

Would you be willing to give up all judgment of you?  Forever?  What if nothing is ever truly wrong… or right?  What if you could be in allowance of all of it?  How much freedom could you have?  Bliss is just a choice :)

I adore you all... would you be willing to be kind to you?

x Lisa

 
 

Yesterday's post delved into the space of choosing more ease, instead of complications, confusion and complexity.  Have you noticed how these energies never allow us to shine our full light on the world?  When we choose dis-ease of any type, it is like choosing to end up homeless and living under a bridge! 

We become invisible. No-one can see us, no-one wants to see us, and the bright shining sparks of magic we could bring to the world in each moment die a slow, lingering painful death, without ever creating the possibilities that would allow our being to experience the true bliss of living. 

Oops!!  Is that really what we wish to choose?  What value do we create when we choose not to shine?  What values do we hold on to that are more important than the expression of our true self?  Is it time to let the real you out from under the bridge? What is the worst thing that could happen?  You find a bigger bridge with more shelter and a couple of comfy mattresses?   You give up bridges and start looking at penthouses instead?

What would it take for you to shine your gorgeous, precious light out into the world today?  Thre are so many ways...

• what ease could you create for others, just by choosing ease?
• what joy could you express that would also bring joy to others?
• what bliss would you be willing to experience, that could expand the possibilities in the world... just by you BEing bliss?
• what laughter can you create today, that will disarm the epidemic of complexity?
• and what if all of this could show up with ease, just because you are BEing more of YOU??

Go play - and know that when you choose to shine... you change everything!  You are a gift to the world - treat yourself like that!

xox Lisa

P.S. And if you want to expand your capacity to be bold, shine and express more of your luminous presence... join us for New Energies of Business on 30 November in Brisbane... it's going to be a shiny, happy gathering of creating bold and beautiful possibilities :)

 

I love observing the subtleties of my life, where themes bubble and pop up from out of nowhere, merging into a stream of consciousness that deliver the often not so subtle 'aha' moment I have been looking for.  Over the past few weeks the theme of 'presence' has been emerging - presence with myself, being present with others, and having lots of that indefinable quality called presence.

This started with a few snippets of insight where we discovered that having presence is core to successfully engaging with the New Energies of BusinessTM.  Once we introduced this topic for our upcoming events on Nov 10th and Feb 6th, experiences relating to developing presence have been everywhere!  Yep, when we ask the universe truly does deliver!

A couple of weeks ago, to my great surprise,  I sang solo in public for the first time ever.  I was just following the energy of joy by going to a Right Voice For You class with my friend Delany.  I figured I would get some speaking practice in!! Well, she cooked me good and proper - within minutes of arriving she had me singing (not one of my stronger talents and abilities... no public encores planned anytime soon ;)  

On my second round of singing (which was a lot better than the first!) my audience were very encouraging.  On the inside I was quite disillusioned though... and I shared this, saying 'but I had no presence'.  Well!! Apparently that was not true from the audience's perspective... so I got to see a whole new side to presence... I had misidentified and misapplied it as some sort of loud high vibey energy, instead of the quiet potency it can truly be! 

Adding this insight to the wonderful things I learned about stillness and presenting at Simone de Haas' recent Act of Speaking workshop has created a whole new space for me to explore the wonders of presence in... a very magical experience all round!

Just yesterday I did a presentation for a wonderful group of women from the Australian Association of Professional Organisers... over lunch I was expressing how much joy I receive from being very present with my audience and talking to their needs and desires from just a few dot points which seem to have their own way of creating a presentation that is relevant and engaging, rather than trotting out the same old speech every time as many speakers do.  I am so grateful to one of the ladies who pointed out that presenting is all about being present, but delivering a speech is just that - and never do the two truly ever meet.  

This idea is so simple, and yet quite profound - and it made me wonder how often are we truly present with the people around us?  I know that I have a lot more presence for people when I am talking to them with my full self present (rather than being scattered all over the universe!!) and with all of my energies of joy, gratitude and contribution present... I am learning never to underestimate the power and potency of the smallest of changes... so what else is possible??

 Image: Pinterest

We are going to explore the topics of presence and visibility in depth at the next New Energies of Business events... if you would like to experience the astonishing difference this can bring to your business and your living, then we would love to have you come play with us!!  Bookings Essential!!

“I’d like what she’s having” is a common response when we see something we desire to have for ourselves reflected in another.  What happens next is interesting… some of us go on to ask “What choice am I not making here that would give me everything I desire?” and then joyfully make the choice to change or create whatever is required.

Many more of us expect the person with the ‘thing’ we desire to deliver it to us in 10 seconds or less on a silver platter without changing anything inside of us, and preferably without charging us anything either!  I’ve started to see this as a fantasy… or maybe an insanity!!  The sparrow does not expect to wake up tomorrow as a peacock!

We don’t stop to look at what it took for this person to be or have this energy we so desire… we don’t stop to consider that their ‘overnight success’ may have taken lifetimes to create… we don’t stop to consider that we might just have to get real with ourselves and really look at what we are being or contributing (or not!) which would allow this magic to show up for us in our individual way!

Personally I find the bliss is in the journey… it’s in the moments of discovery where you see something you’ve never seen before… it’s in the sweet spots where you get to rest and relax into the vista before climbing the next hill… it’s in the moments of satisfaction where you know you just wouldn’t be here if you didn’t make those choices that made little sense at the time but felt ‘oh so right’… it’s in the sense of self you cultivate that nothing and no-one can ever take from you… this gentle unfurling of our peacock feathers offers us an irreplaceable wisdom.

When we give ourselves recognition for our journey we unleash an inner joy in ‘doing what it takes’ that no silver platter could ever deliver.

Giving up the fantasies and insanities and instead choosing to ‘do what it takes’ mostly means we need to BE it first.  We need to get real with ourselves and BE the essence of what we desire.  Funny how easily it shows up when we BE!

What can we choose to BE that would deliver all of this (and then some!!) with ease, joy and abundance?

(Image:  Pinterest)

Hello! At the second New Energies of Business event we created waves of insight and awareness at Peregian Beach!  We had marvellous speakers, a magnificent group of people participating and (of course!!) much joy and laughter amongst the aha moments!

It has been so rewarding to hear people say things like...

• "I adore the energy of the group and its marvellous to be around such kind and gentle souls." 
• "Awesome. Wonderful. Enjoyable."
• "It helped me be courageous in my work"
• "Wow, you have totally turned my idea of business upside down.  I had no idea business could be fun!  I'm ready to create my business now."

We would very much like to share some of this magic with you... so today we have some blissalicious gifts for you!!  How does it get even better than that?? 

After each event we create an ezine (electronic magazine) with some highlights from the day and some additional articles and coaching tips to allow participants to bring the new energies into their businesses in very practical ways.  It is packed full of insights and ideas and is a very practical tool.  We are choosing to share the ezine with you this time... if you would like to receive future editions you can subscribe here.

For today though, this little beauty is yours... we talk about creating value, valuing you, harnessing the power of contribution, loving your work... and so much more!!  You can download it here! 

You can also check out a few snippets of wisdom from our speakers on the BlissTribe YouTube Channel... Here's just one of the magical moments from the day:

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And shhhhh don't tell anyone... but if you use these new energies throughout your life (not only in business!) you just might discover a whole lot more ease and bliss starts to come your way!