Blissalicious Blog

 

One of the things that brings me a lot of bliss is having a sense of space.  Being autistic and quite sensitive (ie acutely aware of everything!!) ‘having enough space’ is a necessity for my overall wellbeing.  I simply don’t function without it.

Without a sense of space, it feels like my whole world collapses into a tiny claustrophobic box that is about to suffocate me. I lose the sense of being me. Do you know what I’m talking about?

I am also discovering my need for space becomes greater as I become more acutely aware of the thoughts, feelings and emotions of other people. So as I expand my psychic awareness of everything in the universe, I require a lot more space!  

I used to be able to create space by immersing myself in a nurturing physical space such as nature or a calm dark room with no stimulation.  These tools still work, but not nearly as well as they used to!

No More Space Invaders!

A couple of weeks ago I was at an Access Consciousness™ class in a remote part of beautiful New Zealand where there was lots of space (that's a picture of the gorgeous beach at the Carrington Resort above).  And yet I still felt like I was in that tiny box! It sent me into a mini-meltdown as I couldn't stand to be near almost anyone, despite the space and beauty around me!! Truly!! How does that work?

And just yesterday some selfish and insensitive people sat right on top of me in a café that had plenty of other seating choices - it made me more than a little cranky!  I had just been for a beautiful walk in Noosa National Park and felt as big as the universe… until they and their small minds thoughtlessly invaded my space!  

Being as aware as I am, space invasion mostly feels like a daily occurrence to me. (Quietly hides under covers in dark bedroom while wanting to scream...)

So what could change this? 

We identify this need for space as physical, emotional or mental and we usually go searching for solutions in those areas, often with little success.

After the mini-meltdown in New Zealand I discovered (thanks to the magical Dr Dain Heer) that if I ask ‘How much space can I occupy?’ and then ‘How much MORE space can I occupy?’ at least 10 times or so, the energy will lighten up and I will feel a lot less like my space is being invaded and a lot more like ME!  

Dr Dain explained that anywhere that I feel like my space is contracted is where I have made my energy as small as the people I am around.  Oops! That would be me being cute but somewhat insane!! 

Now that I am aware that my universe is a whole lot bigger than most people’s, I am much more able to be around people without feeling tiny and insignificant and squashed and suffocated!  You see, none of that contraction is actually mine… a quick return to sender is definitely in order!! And conscious awareness of bliss becomes mine once more!

What else is possible? 

You’ll need to be on our email list to find out!  I’m gifting a heap of new ideas and possibilities to BlissTribe subscribers over the next few months as we start to evolve BlissTribe into a community that creates greater and different choices in the world!

What other topics would you like me to explore? Drop me a line or comment below!

xox Lisa

 

Over the past few years I have slowly learned to be a whole lot kinder to myself.  Instead of making myself wrong for everything, beating myself up for what I haven't done or berating myself for what I should have done but didn't, I've been discovering what it could be to be kind and nurturing to me.  And truly - it has been quite a trip!  I had no idea I was so unkind... to me!

To change this requires a level of vulnerability that we rarely gift ourselves with.   To be kind and nurturing to ourselves, we have to connect with who we truly be.  And that being is a beautiful, vulnerable, aware bundle of energy who is always doing the best they know how.

But mostly we don't want to believe that... we want to believe we are some f***ed up insane idiot that doesn't have a clue.  I'm here to tell you - that could not possibly true... you would not have found yourself reading this if it was...

When we get really vulnerable with ourselves we become willing to look at all of us... even the bits we have kept hidden because we thought they were just far too wrong for anyone to see, including us.  Oops! Lately I've been playing with discovering some more of the 'hidden bits'... and I've seen over and over that underneath everything there is just joy, ease and peace... the building blocks of bliss!

What if we could just be with what is? With no point of view?  Just you, being you... without any judgment... without buying anyone elses interesting point of view about who you are or who you should be... Would that create something totally different in your universe?  Go play just for a day or two... and let us know what shows up for you!

xox Lisa

Have you ever wondered how to bring more joy into your living?

One thing I know about myself is how much joy I receive from being surrounded by beauty and elegance.  It offers a sense of peace and calm.. like a mesmerizing oasis in the midst  of a crazy world where so much ugliness is created when we are unaware of what else is possible. 

Some days I love to create beauty, some days I simply be beauty.  What if we could all know how beautiful we truly be?

I love the unexpectedness of the beauty we find in nature...an eagle soaring overhead as I fly down the highway, the total stillness of the forest as I walk in full presence along the coastline... the happy buzziness of dragonflies and bumblebees as they create their own brand of magic in each moment.

Immersing ourselves in beauty is a treat too... have you noticed how a well-designed building can make you feel good?  How a beautiful painting expands your possibilities?  How fresh flowers can add a certain something to your office?  Or how a great massage creates a sense of space and joy in your universe?

What if you could immerse yourself in whatever is beautiful for you?  Would your world change at all?  Beauty is a contribution to us in every moment... if we will receive it!

xox Lisa

 

I'm happy about nothing a lot.  A LOT!  And really, that just makes me happier... even when I've got stuff I could be unhappy about (and who doesn't??) I'm pretty much happy... how does it get even better than that??

If you are wondering how this could be, its simple... I choose happy!  I've tried the other options... they didn't really work for me!!  So I just keep choosing happy. Even when it doesn't feel like I can...

Now, sometimes that looks like finding the darkest humour in some crazy situation... and sometimes it is the lightest of lightness of just being... it doesn't matter... it's still a form of happy and I never judge where happy comes from!!

In choosing happy, a lot more happy comes my way... would you be willing to choose happy, no matter what?  For absolutely no reason except that you can?  I wonder what could change in your world if you did?

If you start choosing happy you might find that you are present with a whole new set of possibilities... rather than the list of impossibilities that are making you unhappy!

You might also find that people want to play with you a whole lot more... instead of wondering what the hell it would take for you to be happy just once!  And you could discover that being happy is fun... and easier by far than being unhappy!  Have you ever noticed that happy people seem to have a whole lot more energy and zing?  There's a reason for that!! 

When we have been unhappy for a while it sometimes feels a little weird to just start choosing happy.  What does that feel like again?  Happy?  I remember happy... (I do?? Really?) Yes... you really do, even if it doesn't feel like it in this ten seconds!

Look for your happy in spontaneous moments ...like unexpectedly finding Lindt chocolate in your laptop bag late at night ... or teaching the dog to dance (not so successful... but very funny!) ... or running into a favourite friend when you really need to see someone who just loves you for you... wow... it's all just happy!

Or you could find your happy through gratitude... everytime I hear friends talk about their corporate jobs I find my happy very quickly!  No longer working for power-obsessed, politically motivated, unaware idiots is something I truly am grateful for - every single day (and it's been over 4 years since I escaped the lunatic asylum!!!) 

And of course I find my happy in my work - I truly do love my work... and I love what I can contribute to this world through my work... and that creates a whole lot of happy in my universe! (Have you got my free Love Your Work e-coaching yet?  It's designed to create happy too!!)

And of course, you can just make people think you are really really really weird by being happy just because you can... no other reason... in fact no reason at all. (Funnily enough, doing this actually makes me happy too... I receive a strange pleasure in BEing totally different to what people expect!)  Happy about nothing is literally the simplest and fastest way to get happy - it's just a choice!!

So you see... happy can be anywhere... and everywhere!  What would it take for you to choose it?

(Yep, it's a Pollyanna moment... a long happy one... that pretty much never needs to end... unless you choose unhappy!) How do you keep your happy intact?  I would love to know!

 
 

Are you aware you have an infinite connection with everything in the universe?  That no matter how much you love to 'be alone' (or hate it!) you are never truly alone? 

When you sit quietly in nature, do you feel alone, or do you feel connected with every grain of sand... every tiny creature... and every molecule that has ever been? 

When we have peace with the sense of being alone and yet are totally connect with everything, we no longer make 'alone' a wrongness. Often, with this peace, our feelings of loneliness dissipate with ease if we are willing to allow this change to show up. 

This sense of peace is what allows us to more tangibly connect with people and other living creatures in a way that is a gift to all. Have you noticed how much more people want to spend time with you when you have a sense of peace in your world rather than loneliness?

So next time you are feeling alone, would you be willing to quietly sense your total connection with everything that is, everything that has ever been, and everything that ever will be?  The vastness of sensing our connection to the universe in this way truly is extraordinary...

What is your sense of being alone?  And how would you like it to be?

For me, I celebrate my 'alone' times... there's not nearly enough of them anymore!

 

What is bringing you bliss today? I'm making spirals out of pretty things! 

These were my Nanna's pearls - I got inspired and made them into something just a little more funky a couple of weeks ago.  There is always bliss in creating something that has never existed before :)

What are the simple pleasures that immerse you in a state of bliss?

xox  Lisa

 

Most days all thrival takes is to keep moving forward. Not two steps forward, one step back. Not looking back.  Just moving forward.  What is that like for you?

For me it is sensing the next possibility for joy... for bliss... for ease... or flow.  Choosing the next action that creates and generates something new and delicious that contributes greater possibilities to my life. Simple!  And what else is possible?

 Image:  Pinterest

 

This morning I went for a swim in the sparkly turquoise ocean at Noosa… the beach was quiet and once out beyond the first set of crashing shore breaks the peace and stillness was stunning!  I had no head chatter; I was immersed in the subtle sounds of the ocean being the ocean… and it was bliss!

And it got me pondering how rarely I have this stillness inside my mind, and how often we think that we are everything we are thinking!!  Besides being in nature, those times of stillness and internal peace mostly come from two places for me… getting my Bars run (oh beautiful thing!!) and returning to sender all of the thoughts, feelings and emotions that are not mine (that would be 99.99999999% of the head chatter – gone - instantly!)

We have been trained to identify with all of these thoughts, feelings and emotions as if they are us… but what if they are simply clouds floating by that are nothing to do with who we truly be? 

What if we could allow them to float on through our minds without attaching any conclusions, any significance or any trauma and drama to any of it?  Would there be more peace, more stillness and more space to become aware of the bliss that is available to us in the moment?

So this week I’m returning to sender every thought, feeling or emotion that I am aware of that is not mine… what if we could have way more space in our minds?  Would this create the peace and awareness of possibilities we are so often looking for?

(In case you are wondering...'Return to Sender' is one of the many practical tools I use from Access Consciousness to create ease and joy in my daily living.)

(Image thanks to Pinterest)

 

‘What if everything you have been judging about you is everything that is wonderful about you?’  Dr Dain Heer

I have just been to 9 days of the Access Consciousness Beyonds classes.  On day 4, Gary Douglas asked us ‘what is different for you so far?’  What I saw for myself was that for the first time ever, there was no wrongness in my universe… I was at total peace with everything… there were things I could choose to change… or I could just be at peace with them.  There was no judgment of me in my universe!

Just a sense of gratitude and space for all that I was able to be right now… whilst still knowing how much more could be possible if I am willing to choose it.  WOW – what a phenomenal space to be in!  

There were so many spaces where I saw that I had made myself wrong when actually those were the very things that make me the delicious decadent ME that I be!  Once I gave up the judgment and wrongness, all that was left was joy, bliss and a sense of possibility that continues to expand!  How does it get better than that???

Would you be willing to give up all judgment of you?  Forever?  What if nothing is ever truly wrong… or right?  What if you could be in allowance of all of it?  How much freedom could you have?  Bliss is just a choice :)

I adore you all... would you be willing to be kind to you?

x Lisa

 
 

Yesterday's post delved into the space of choosing more ease, instead of complications, confusion and complexity.  Have you noticed how these energies never allow us to shine our full light on the world?  When we choose dis-ease of any type, it is like choosing to end up homeless and living under a bridge! 

We become invisible. No-one can see us, no-one wants to see us, and the bright shining sparks of magic we could bring to the world in each moment die a slow, lingering painful death, without ever creating the possibilities that would allow our being to experience the true bliss of living. 

Oops!!  Is that really what we wish to choose?  What value do we create when we choose not to shine?  What values do we hold on to that are more important than the expression of our true self?  Is it time to let the real you out from under the bridge? What is the worst thing that could happen?  You find a bigger bridge with more shelter and a couple of comfy mattresses?   You give up bridges and start looking at penthouses instead?

What would it take for you to shine your gorgeous, precious light out into the world today?  Thre are so many ways...

• what ease could you create for others, just by choosing ease?
• what joy could you express that would also bring joy to others?
• what bliss would you be willing to experience, that could expand the possibilities in the world... just by you BEing bliss?
• what laughter can you create today, that will disarm the epidemic of complexity?
• and what if all of this could show up with ease, just because you are BEing more of YOU??

Go play - and know that when you choose to shine... you change everything!  You are a gift to the world - treat yourself like that!

xox Lisa

P.S. And if you want to expand your capacity to be bold, shine and express more of your luminous presence... join us for New Energies of Business on 30 November in Brisbane... it's going to be a shiny, happy gathering of creating bold and beautiful possibilities :)