Blissalicious Blog

 

One of the things that brings me a lot of bliss is having a sense of space.  Being autistic and quite sensitive (ie acutely aware of everything!!) ‘having enough space’ is a necessity for my overall wellbeing.  I simply don’t function without it.

Without a sense of space, it feels like my whole world collapses into a tiny claustrophobic box that is about to suffocate me. I lose the sense of being me. Do you know what I’m talking about?

I am also discovering my need for space becomes greater as I become more acutely aware of the thoughts, feelings and emotions of other people. So as I expand my psychic awareness of everything in the universe, I require a lot more space!  

I used to be able to create space by immersing myself in a nurturing physical space such as nature or a calm dark room with no stimulation.  These tools still work, but not nearly as well as they used to!

No More Space Invaders!

A couple of weeks ago I was at an Access Consciousness™ class in a remote part of beautiful New Zealand where there was lots of space (that's a picture of the gorgeous beach at the Carrington Resort above).  And yet I still felt like I was in that tiny box! It sent me into a mini-meltdown as I couldn't stand to be near almost anyone, despite the space and beauty around me!! Truly!! How does that work?

And just yesterday some selfish and insensitive people sat right on top of me in a café that had plenty of other seating choices - it made me more than a little cranky!  I had just been for a beautiful walk in Noosa National Park and felt as big as the universe… until they and their small minds thoughtlessly invaded my space!  

Being as aware as I am, space invasion mostly feels like a daily occurrence to me. (Quietly hides under covers in dark bedroom while wanting to scream...)

So what could change this? 

We identify this need for space as physical, emotional or mental and we usually go searching for solutions in those areas, often with little success.

After the mini-meltdown in New Zealand I discovered (thanks to the magical Dr Dain Heer) that if I ask ‘How much space can I occupy?’ and then ‘How much MORE space can I occupy?’ at least 10 times or so, the energy will lighten up and I will feel a lot less like my space is being invaded and a lot more like ME!  

Dr Dain explained that anywhere that I feel like my space is contracted is where I have made my energy as small as the people I am around.  Oops! That would be me being cute but somewhat insane!! 

Now that I am aware that my universe is a whole lot bigger than most people’s, I am much more able to be around people without feeling tiny and insignificant and squashed and suffocated!  You see, none of that contraction is actually mine… a quick return to sender is definitely in order!! And conscious awareness of bliss becomes mine once more!

What else is possible? 

You’ll need to be on our email list to find out!  I’m gifting a heap of new ideas and possibilities to BlissTribe subscribers over the next few months as we start to evolve BlissTribe into a community that creates greater and different choices in the world!

What other topics would you like me to explore? Drop me a line or comment below!

xox Lisa

 

Over the past few years I have slowly learned to be a whole lot kinder to myself.  Instead of making myself wrong for everything, beating myself up for what I haven't done or berating myself for what I should have done but didn't, I've been discovering what it could be to be kind and nurturing to me.  And truly - it has been quite a trip!  I had no idea I was so unkind... to me!

To change this requires a level of vulnerability that we rarely gift ourselves with.   To be kind and nurturing to ourselves, we have to connect with who we truly be.  And that being is a beautiful, vulnerable, aware bundle of energy who is always doing the best they know how.

But mostly we don't want to believe that... we want to believe we are some f***ed up insane idiot that doesn't have a clue.  I'm here to tell you - that could not possibly true... you would not have found yourself reading this if it was...

When we get really vulnerable with ourselves we become willing to look at all of us... even the bits we have kept hidden because we thought they were just far too wrong for anyone to see, including us.  Oops! Lately I've been playing with discovering some more of the 'hidden bits'... and I've seen over and over that underneath everything there is just joy, ease and peace... the building blocks of bliss!

What if we could just be with what is? With no point of view?  Just you, being you... without any judgment... without buying anyone elses interesting point of view about who you are or who you should be... Would that create something totally different in your universe?  Go play just for a day or two... and let us know what shows up for you!

xox Lisa

 

I'm happy about nothing a lot.  A LOT!  And really, that just makes me happier... even when I've got stuff I could be unhappy about (and who doesn't??) I'm pretty much happy... how does it get even better than that??

If you are wondering how this could be, its simple... I choose happy!  I've tried the other options... they didn't really work for me!!  So I just keep choosing happy. Even when it doesn't feel like I can...

Now, sometimes that looks like finding the darkest humour in some crazy situation... and sometimes it is the lightest of lightness of just being... it doesn't matter... it's still a form of happy and I never judge where happy comes from!!

In choosing happy, a lot more happy comes my way... would you be willing to choose happy, no matter what?  For absolutely no reason except that you can?  I wonder what could change in your world if you did?

If you start choosing happy you might find that you are present with a whole new set of possibilities... rather than the list of impossibilities that are making you unhappy!

You might also find that people want to play with you a whole lot more... instead of wondering what the hell it would take for you to be happy just once!  And you could discover that being happy is fun... and easier by far than being unhappy!  Have you ever noticed that happy people seem to have a whole lot more energy and zing?  There's a reason for that!! 

When we have been unhappy for a while it sometimes feels a little weird to just start choosing happy.  What does that feel like again?  Happy?  I remember happy... (I do?? Really?) Yes... you really do, even if it doesn't feel like it in this ten seconds!

Look for your happy in spontaneous moments ...like unexpectedly finding Lindt chocolate in your laptop bag late at night ... or teaching the dog to dance (not so successful... but very funny!) ... or running into a favourite friend when you really need to see someone who just loves you for you... wow... it's all just happy!

Or you could find your happy through gratitude... everytime I hear friends talk about their corporate jobs I find my happy very quickly!  No longer working for power-obsessed, politically motivated, unaware idiots is something I truly am grateful for - every single day (and it's been over 4 years since I escaped the lunatic asylum!!!) 

And of course I find my happy in my work - I truly do love my work... and I love what I can contribute to this world through my work... and that creates a whole lot of happy in my universe! (Have you got my free Love Your Work e-coaching yet?  It's designed to create happy too!!)

And of course, you can just make people think you are really really really weird by being happy just because you can... no other reason... in fact no reason at all. (Funnily enough, doing this actually makes me happy too... I receive a strange pleasure in BEing totally different to what people expect!)  Happy about nothing is literally the simplest and fastest way to get happy - it's just a choice!!

So you see... happy can be anywhere... and everywhere!  What would it take for you to choose it?

(Yep, it's a Pollyanna moment... a long happy one... that pretty much never needs to end... unless you choose unhappy!) How do you keep your happy intact?  I would love to know!

 

This morning I went for a swim in the sparkly turquoise ocean at Noosa… the beach was quiet and once out beyond the first set of crashing shore breaks the peace and stillness was stunning!  I had no head chatter; I was immersed in the subtle sounds of the ocean being the ocean… and it was bliss!

And it got me pondering how rarely I have this stillness inside my mind, and how often we think that we are everything we are thinking!!  Besides being in nature, those times of stillness and internal peace mostly come from two places for me… getting my Bars run (oh beautiful thing!!) and returning to sender all of the thoughts, feelings and emotions that are not mine (that would be 99.99999999% of the head chatter – gone - instantly!)

We have been trained to identify with all of these thoughts, feelings and emotions as if they are us… but what if they are simply clouds floating by that are nothing to do with who we truly be? 

What if we could allow them to float on through our minds without attaching any conclusions, any significance or any trauma and drama to any of it?  Would there be more peace, more stillness and more space to become aware of the bliss that is available to us in the moment?

So this week I’m returning to sender every thought, feeling or emotion that I am aware of that is not mine… what if we could have way more space in our minds?  Would this create the peace and awareness of possibilities we are so often looking for?

(In case you are wondering...'Return to Sender' is one of the many practical tools I use from Access Consciousness to create ease and joy in my daily living.)

(Image thanks to Pinterest)

 

I have come back from 9 days of Access Consciousness classes (and no... in case you were wondering, there was no naked bike-riding - that's a different sort of uncomfortable!)  It seems like I have a totally new reality!  Each time I go to class I get sooooo excited as I see the many possibilities that were never available to me previously - mostly because I was stuck in some gluggy quagmire of limited points of view that were almost never even mine to start with!!

If I always choose more, no matter what I have already achieved, my life becomes immeasurably expansive – there is just so much more space and so much more awareness available as I allow the flood-gates of being unlimited to open even further… yes Bliss peeps, there it is… that scary word:  unlimited.

One of the energies being more unlimited has led me to explore is that of being uncomfortable.  As I demand more and greater possibilities, far beyond what I have ever chosen before, I am often sitting in the unknown and unexplored…  

This sometimes brings a sense of being uncomfortable, mostly because I am no longer operating from the assumptions, habits and reference points I used to consider were me!   I am functioning from a space outside of the known ‘me’!!  

If you think about what that could be like for a moment, you’ll know why I appear a little dazed and confused some days!  It’s a case of: “Who am I? What grand and glorious adventures can I have and receive today…?” rather than ‘this is who I am and this is what I must do to fit into the box everyone expects me to sit in for the next 500 million years…’  hmmmm… no thanks!!

That box is a comfort zone that only ever leads to a slow and infinitely boring death, one stuck, struggle-filled moment at a time!  So, maybe this living on the creative edge idea has something going for it!!  Even if it is uncomfortable...

Have you ever considered what it would be like to simply be present with being uncomfortable? I know this sounds quite weird - it is a new discovery for me too…  but one that has allowed me to see, for the first time ever, that uncomfortable does not have to equate to bad or something being wrong… intensity does not have to equate to overwhelm…  there is actually a lightness and spaciousness as I be totally present with the energy that is there.

Simply sitting with those energies and being present with them takes my awareness to a whole new space where being uncomfortable can actually show up as a knowing and receiving of what else could be possible!  

So I invite you to join me in an exploration of uncomfortable… there is so much change showing up in our world… maybe it’s time to invite that change to create and generate something phenomenal rather than something that diminishes who we truly be??  

Play with it... and see if you can discover for yourself how magical it is -  when we are willing to be uncomfortable, an ease shows up that we were previously rejecting! Strange but true!!  I have been a little surprised to see all of the ease and joy I have been rejecting because I wasn't willing to have uncomfortable - oops!! Sometimes I'm cute but not so bright!

So here’s a question you could ask next time you are feeling a little on the ‘un’ side of comfortable:  “What possibility am I aware of that I am not choosing?”  When you sense what else is possible, you just might be willing to embrace uncomfortable…

I adore you all...have fun playing with this one!  Did you notice that the naked bike riders were smiling?  Maybe uncomfortable isn't what we think!! 

And do let me know what you discover as you play... I'm curious!

xox  Lisa

PS I will be facilitating some uncomfortably amazing Access classes in 2012... do let me know if you'd like to know more!

 

Within this beautiful spiral shell there is darkness and light.  I had a wonderful conversation with a friend this week about how often we keep the darkness hidden away and squashed inside and only allow the light to be seen because that's what we have been told is 'acceptable'. 

Whether we admit it or not, somewhere in our depths, most of us have more issues than Vogue. And we keep them well hidden until such time as they burst to the surface, dripping unresolved emotions everywhere.  As the energy on our planet is in upheaval, so it is within us at this time.  Much is surfacing to be harmonised and resolved.

What could change if we were to start questioning what is 'acceptable' and to start to follow our own knowing?  It seems pretty clear that the traditional ways of dealing with the darkness hasn't exactly created peace and light in the world!!  From that space of clarity and inner knowing we can generate the peace and harmony that comes from resolving or espressing the dark and hidden places that have held us captive until now. 

When we get over the idea that the darkness is 'wrong' and the light is 'right' it opens a door for us to look at both aspects and how they can offer new possibilities.  As the divine feminine energy moves into place and we start to operate from a place of flow instead of force, all of us have the possibility of experiencing how much capacity the darkness has to create a potency in our life that allows greater possibilities to show up. 

This potency is created within us when we make peace with the darkness.  When we know that we have what it takes to move beyond the darkness.  When we have gratitude for the contributions the darkness has made in our life and we are willing to step into a lighter place without a backward glance.

Resolving the darkness is not an invitation to splatter your darkness everywhere all over people through fear, anger, abuse or any other emotion of force... It is an invitation to look at the darkness with awareness,  to remove its power to inflict harm, and allow the insights gained from that process to contribute to a different possibility for the rest of your life.  So what does this mean in practical terms?

Would you have more peace and harmony if you...

• stopped creating friction as a way of proving you are alive and looked for the possibilities of ease and joy?
• focused on what the lightness can contribute instead of what the darkness is not contributing?
• asked the darkness what it could contribute to you if you saw it differently?
• celebrated the darkness and turned on the party lights?
• reviewed everything in your life that is no longer serving you and simply let it go, without having to be 'right' or to explain and justify your choices?
• stopped creating your dreams from a fantasy based on the past, and simply looked at what you desire right now?
• allowed relationships and beliefs that are based in lack, fear and anger to slip quietly away?

I am definitely not suggesting you become a doormat, quite the opposite!  When we allow the darkness to have no power over us, and to contribute the potency it has created within us, we become very clear about what we are choosing.  We set boundaries, we speak up for ourselves and we follow the path that offers peace and harmony, even if we have to climb a couple of boulders along the way.  It is okay to roar!  It is important to be heard.  When you can do this from a space of darkness resolved, rather than the underlying unresolved issue, your potency will not be mistaken as anger! 

Peace and harmony can be created from darkness.  So wherever we see these energies playing out around us, it is up to us to ask 'What energies could I be, do or contribute here that could change this in an instant?'   When we stop contributing to disharmony, much can change... more space and lightness shows up on the inside and the outside!!

As I have followed this process in my own life over the past few weeks and months I have come to see the value in recognising both sides.  All of a sudden we see the 'thing' that keeps us in the spiral pattern of repeating an issue, rather than being able to graciously move into a lighter, more blissful, more joyful reality.  Once we have shone a light onto the 'thing' it can no longer trigger the darkness in us... instead we can wallow in the bliss and sparkle! Simply beautiful!

As we go, so goes the earth.  Every time we shift the darkness we allow more lightness into our beautiful planet.  That lightness both heals and allows for greater transparency in places where there is still unresolved darkness - for us personally and on a global scale... all change truly starts with us!

Have a beautiful Sunday... take a few moments to find some peace within :)
xx
Lisa

Sometimes the most profoundly sensorial moments come from being still and being totally in the moment.  Wherever you are today, take a few moments to simply stop and be still, and notice everything around you... the seen and the unseen!

Does your universe feel different when you do that? 
Did you feel more space?
What did you have awareness of that you never noticed before? 

Bliss is found in the small quiet moments, as well as the larger than life celebrations.

Have a beautiful, blissful Saturday. Know you are loved and all is well.
:-) Lisa

Image via Pinterest - with gratitude!

I watched Limitless last night because I was intrigued to see what Hollywood could do with the idea of having total awareness.  The eye candy was SO worth it (YEAH!!), but oh my, they should have called the movie Limited!!  Imagine having total knowing of everything, in effect, total consciousness... and then only choosing to make a heap of money on Wall Street and then run for President with your new found fame!  Please!!!  What else is possible here???

I was astonished by the incredibly limited view of 'success' presented.  It is no wonder we all make ourselves so pathetic, small and limited when that is all that we have to aspire to!!  For many people I know, targets like that are so uninspiring that it would be more fun to stay in bed!

I am hugely grateful that the movie did get me thinking though... and the question I've been asking myself this morning is... if my life were totally unlimited, what could it look like?  Actually, I'm going to write my own (somewhat more creative!) movie script around this, because I KNOW so much more is possible!!

On the weekend I finished reading Jacqueline Novogratz's memoir "The Blue Sweater" her story about bringing new and different perspectives to eradicating poverty and enabling philanthropy to make a measurable difference.  Ms Novogratz is a wonderful real life example of being unlimited, asking a whole lot of questions and seeing what else could be possible!      Would you be willing to start searching out role models who have a totally different perspective on living and what is possible?

So my question for you today is... if money wasn't the issue, what would you choose to create, change and generate in the world?  When more of us look at the possibilities that are outside of what is presented as 'the answer'  and outside of what this reality sees as valuable, we can start to change what is....

So what do you KNOW inside of you that if you created it could totally change the world?  Yes folks, this does go beyond a vision board of stuff that other people think is the ants pants -  we are looking for your BIG vision!  What could create bliss in this world that doesn't yet exist???

Do you realise there is a difference between a fantasy and creating a possibility you truly desire to see in the world?  This short video with Dr Dain Heer gifts you a great tool for not getting stuck in fantasy realities when you would really like to be creating something totally different! 



What would you be willing to see about the possibilities and potentials before you that is not a fantasy that could totally change your life if you would choose to have it?

A couple of weeks ago I had the gift of 4 days with Gary Douglas, Founder of Access Consciousness and wow, did I have my fantasy world rearranged!  I'm so not looking to build castles in the air anymore - it's exhausting!!

Instead I'm looking for the playful creative energy that already exists that allows me to create the changes I wish to see in the world... and that is a totally different feeling to wishing and hoping for something that has no energetic base... that is just a figment of my imagination... we value imagination but what if following the energy of what is possible can actually deliver something much greater than we can imagine?

And you know what else?  When we stop following fantasies and start following the energy of possibilities, all of a sudden there is a whole lot less that is required of us, there is a whole lot more ease and joy and amazing stuff just shows up without us even trying... so how does it get better than that?  Would you be willing to find out??

After all, bliss is simply the energies of love, lightness and joy... so would you like more of that in your life?  It's just a choice to have more consciousness about what you are creating :)

xx Lisa

I have just spent four blissful days at an advanced Access Consciousness class in Brisbane where we laughed non-stop.  Change is totally joyful and blissful if we are willing for it to be lighter than a feather touch! 

Just when I thought I had finished with the being/doing conundrum I have been exploring over the past few months... up popped days of playing with the energy of this!  And in the willingness to explore it further I made a beautiful discovery. 

Access founder Gary Douglas says "Being is the capacity to create a totally different reality just by BEing you."  Now I know I already do this.  I know I can change what is, just by being present with people and having the willingness for change to occur... but what I didn't see (and what I am sure you never see for yourself either!) is how much potency we have in just BEing ALL that we are.

I am so deeply grateful to Gary for reflecting back to me the truth of the energy I BE... what I felt in those moments was indescribable...and it changed my entire universe in an instant.

I saw that there was nothing to judge in me, but plenty to be in allowance of.  I saw the immensity of my BEing and the infinite possibilities of allowing myself to be unlimited.  I saw that everything I require is already within me. I saw the pure joy and love that we all have wrapped up so tightly inside... and I saw the possibilities for the world if I was to be vulnerable enough to BE this beautiful energy without hiding. 

I am not sure what else to say except WOW! 

We are all so much greater than this reality would have us believe.  We are all so much greater than we are willing to see.  So what would it take for each of us to start shining that greatness into the world with a brightness and lightness that could transform anything, create anything and BE anything we choose? We are the gold and the change we are seeking...

If you have been wondering how to step up, know the time is now and the only thing you need to 'DO' is BE YOU!  Without limitation, without shame, without doubt.  If you are here now, you have a contribution to make.  If you are reading this know there are no mistakes... your time is now.  Would you hold my hand, take that first tiny step and invite the world to experience the brilliance of you?

xx Lisa

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