Blissalicious Blog

 

One of the things that brings me a lot of bliss is having a sense of space.  Being autistic and quite sensitive (ie acutely aware of everything!!) ‘having enough space’ is a necessity for my overall wellbeing.  I simply don’t function without it.

Without a sense of space, it feels like my whole world collapses into a tiny claustrophobic box that is about to suffocate me. I lose the sense of being me. Do you know what I’m talking about?

I am also discovering my need for space becomes greater as I become more acutely aware of the thoughts, feelings and emotions of other people. So as I expand my psychic awareness of everything in the universe, I require a lot more space!  

I used to be able to create space by immersing myself in a nurturing physical space such as nature or a calm dark room with no stimulation.  These tools still work, but not nearly as well as they used to!

No More Space Invaders!

A couple of weeks ago I was at an Access Consciousness™ class in a remote part of beautiful New Zealand where there was lots of space (that's a picture of the gorgeous beach at the Carrington Resort above).  And yet I still felt like I was in that tiny box! It sent me into a mini-meltdown as I couldn't stand to be near almost anyone, despite the space and beauty around me!! Truly!! How does that work?

And just yesterday some selfish and insensitive people sat right on top of me in a café that had plenty of other seating choices - it made me more than a little cranky!  I had just been for a beautiful walk in Noosa National Park and felt as big as the universe… until they and their small minds thoughtlessly invaded my space!  

Being as aware as I am, space invasion mostly feels like a daily occurrence to me. (Quietly hides under covers in dark bedroom while wanting to scream...)

So what could change this? 

We identify this need for space as physical, emotional or mental and we usually go searching for solutions in those areas, often with little success.

After the mini-meltdown in New Zealand I discovered (thanks to the magical Dr Dain Heer) that if I ask ‘How much space can I occupy?’ and then ‘How much MORE space can I occupy?’ at least 10 times or so, the energy will lighten up and I will feel a lot less like my space is being invaded and a lot more like ME!  

Dr Dain explained that anywhere that I feel like my space is contracted is where I have made my energy as small as the people I am around.  Oops! That would be me being cute but somewhat insane!! 

Now that I am aware that my universe is a whole lot bigger than most people’s, I am much more able to be around people without feeling tiny and insignificant and squashed and suffocated!  You see, none of that contraction is actually mine… a quick return to sender is definitely in order!! And conscious awareness of bliss becomes mine once more!

What else is possible? 

You’ll need to be on our email list to find out!  I’m gifting a heap of new ideas and possibilities to BlissTribe subscribers over the next few months as we start to evolve BlissTribe into a community that creates greater and different choices in the world!

What other topics would you like me to explore? Drop me a line or comment below!

xox Lisa

 

Over the past few years I have slowly learned to be a whole lot kinder to myself.  Instead of making myself wrong for everything, beating myself up for what I haven't done or berating myself for what I should have done but didn't, I've been discovering what it could be to be kind and nurturing to me.  And truly - it has been quite a trip!  I had no idea I was so unkind... to me!

To change this requires a level of vulnerability that we rarely gift ourselves with.   To be kind and nurturing to ourselves, we have to connect with who we truly be.  And that being is a beautiful, vulnerable, aware bundle of energy who is always doing the best they know how.

But mostly we don't want to believe that... we want to believe we are some f***ed up insane idiot that doesn't have a clue.  I'm here to tell you - that could not possibly true... you would not have found yourself reading this if it was...

When we get really vulnerable with ourselves we become willing to look at all of us... even the bits we have kept hidden because we thought they were just far too wrong for anyone to see, including us.  Oops! Lately I've been playing with discovering some more of the 'hidden bits'... and I've seen over and over that underneath everything there is just joy, ease and peace... the building blocks of bliss!

What if we could just be with what is? With no point of view?  Just you, being you... without any judgment... without buying anyone elses interesting point of view about who you are or who you should be... Would that create something totally different in your universe?  Go play just for a day or two... and let us know what shows up for you!

xox Lisa

Have you ever wondered how to bring more joy into your living?

One thing I know about myself is how much joy I receive from being surrounded by beauty and elegance.  It offers a sense of peace and calm.. like a mesmerizing oasis in the midst  of a crazy world where so much ugliness is created when we are unaware of what else is possible. 

Some days I love to create beauty, some days I simply be beauty.  What if we could all know how beautiful we truly be?

I love the unexpectedness of the beauty we find in nature...an eagle soaring overhead as I fly down the highway, the total stillness of the forest as I walk in full presence along the coastline... the happy buzziness of dragonflies and bumblebees as they create their own brand of magic in each moment.

Immersing ourselves in beauty is a treat too... have you noticed how a well-designed building can make you feel good?  How a beautiful painting expands your possibilities?  How fresh flowers can add a certain something to your office?  Or how a great massage creates a sense of space and joy in your universe?

What if you could immerse yourself in whatever is beautiful for you?  Would your world change at all?  Beauty is a contribution to us in every moment... if we will receive it!

xox Lisa

 

I'm happy about nothing a lot.  A LOT!  And really, that just makes me happier... even when I've got stuff I could be unhappy about (and who doesn't??) I'm pretty much happy... how does it get even better than that??

If you are wondering how this could be, its simple... I choose happy!  I've tried the other options... they didn't really work for me!!  So I just keep choosing happy. Even when it doesn't feel like I can...

Now, sometimes that looks like finding the darkest humour in some crazy situation... and sometimes it is the lightest of lightness of just being... it doesn't matter... it's still a form of happy and I never judge where happy comes from!!

In choosing happy, a lot more happy comes my way... would you be willing to choose happy, no matter what?  For absolutely no reason except that you can?  I wonder what could change in your world if you did?

If you start choosing happy you might find that you are present with a whole new set of possibilities... rather than the list of impossibilities that are making you unhappy!

You might also find that people want to play with you a whole lot more... instead of wondering what the hell it would take for you to be happy just once!  And you could discover that being happy is fun... and easier by far than being unhappy!  Have you ever noticed that happy people seem to have a whole lot more energy and zing?  There's a reason for that!! 

When we have been unhappy for a while it sometimes feels a little weird to just start choosing happy.  What does that feel like again?  Happy?  I remember happy... (I do?? Really?) Yes... you really do, even if it doesn't feel like it in this ten seconds!

Look for your happy in spontaneous moments ...like unexpectedly finding Lindt chocolate in your laptop bag late at night ... or teaching the dog to dance (not so successful... but very funny!) ... or running into a favourite friend when you really need to see someone who just loves you for you... wow... it's all just happy!

Or you could find your happy through gratitude... everytime I hear friends talk about their corporate jobs I find my happy very quickly!  No longer working for power-obsessed, politically motivated, unaware idiots is something I truly am grateful for - every single day (and it's been over 4 years since I escaped the lunatic asylum!!!) 

And of course I find my happy in my work - I truly do love my work... and I love what I can contribute to this world through my work... and that creates a whole lot of happy in my universe! (Have you got my free Love Your Work e-coaching yet?  It's designed to create happy too!!)

And of course, you can just make people think you are really really really weird by being happy just because you can... no other reason... in fact no reason at all. (Funnily enough, doing this actually makes me happy too... I receive a strange pleasure in BEing totally different to what people expect!)  Happy about nothing is literally the simplest and fastest way to get happy - it's just a choice!!

So you see... happy can be anywhere... and everywhere!  What would it take for you to choose it?

(Yep, it's a Pollyanna moment... a long happy one... that pretty much never needs to end... unless you choose unhappy!) How do you keep your happy intact?  I would love to know!

 

Most days all thrival takes is to keep moving forward. Not two steps forward, one step back. Not looking back.  Just moving forward.  What is that like for you?

For me it is sensing the next possibility for joy... for bliss... for ease... or flow.  Choosing the next action that creates and generates something new and delicious that contributes greater possibilities to my life. Simple!  And what else is possible?

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‘What if everything you have been judging about you is everything that is wonderful about you?’  Dr Dain Heer

I have just been to 9 days of the Access Consciousness Beyonds classes.  On day 4, Gary Douglas asked us ‘what is different for you so far?’  What I saw for myself was that for the first time ever, there was no wrongness in my universe… I was at total peace with everything… there were things I could choose to change… or I could just be at peace with them.  There was no judgment of me in my universe!

Just a sense of gratitude and space for all that I was able to be right now… whilst still knowing how much more could be possible if I am willing to choose it.  WOW – what a phenomenal space to be in!  

There were so many spaces where I saw that I had made myself wrong when actually those were the very things that make me the delicious decadent ME that I be!  Once I gave up the judgment and wrongness, all that was left was joy, bliss and a sense of possibility that continues to expand!  How does it get better than that???

Would you be willing to give up all judgment of you?  Forever?  What if nothing is ever truly wrong… or right?  What if you could be in allowance of all of it?  How much freedom could you have?  Bliss is just a choice :)

I adore you all... would you be willing to be kind to you?

x Lisa

 
 

Yesterday's post delved into the space of choosing more ease, instead of complications, confusion and complexity.  Have you noticed how these energies never allow us to shine our full light on the world?  When we choose dis-ease of any type, it is like choosing to end up homeless and living under a bridge! 

We become invisible. No-one can see us, no-one wants to see us, and the bright shining sparks of magic we could bring to the world in each moment die a slow, lingering painful death, without ever creating the possibilities that would allow our being to experience the true bliss of living. 

Oops!!  Is that really what we wish to choose?  What value do we create when we choose not to shine?  What values do we hold on to that are more important than the expression of our true self?  Is it time to let the real you out from under the bridge? What is the worst thing that could happen?  You find a bigger bridge with more shelter and a couple of comfy mattresses?   You give up bridges and start looking at penthouses instead?

What would it take for you to shine your gorgeous, precious light out into the world today?  Thre are so many ways...

• what ease could you create for others, just by choosing ease?
• what joy could you express that would also bring joy to others?
• what bliss would you be willing to experience, that could expand the possibilities in the world... just by you BEing bliss?
• what laughter can you create today, that will disarm the epidemic of complexity?
• and what if all of this could show up with ease, just because you are BEing more of YOU??

Go play - and know that when you choose to shine... you change everything!  You are a gift to the world - treat yourself like that!

xox Lisa

P.S. And if you want to expand your capacity to be bold, shine and express more of your luminous presence... join us for New Energies of Business on 30 November in Brisbane... it's going to be a shiny, happy gathering of creating bold and beautiful possibilities :)

Within this beautiful spiral shell there is darkness and light.  I had a wonderful conversation with a friend this week about how often we keep the darkness hidden away and squashed inside and only allow the light to be seen because that's what we have been told is 'acceptable'. 

Whether we admit it or not, somewhere in our depths, most of us have more issues than Vogue. And we keep them well hidden until such time as they burst to the surface, dripping unresolved emotions everywhere.  As the energy on our planet is in upheaval, so it is within us at this time.  Much is surfacing to be harmonised and resolved.

What could change if we were to start questioning what is 'acceptable' and to start to follow our own knowing?  It seems pretty clear that the traditional ways of dealing with the darkness hasn't exactly created peace and light in the world!!  From that space of clarity and inner knowing we can generate the peace and harmony that comes from resolving or espressing the dark and hidden places that have held us captive until now. 

When we get over the idea that the darkness is 'wrong' and the light is 'right' it opens a door for us to look at both aspects and how they can offer new possibilities.  As the divine feminine energy moves into place and we start to operate from a place of flow instead of force, all of us have the possibility of experiencing how much capacity the darkness has to create a potency in our life that allows greater possibilities to show up. 

This potency is created within us when we make peace with the darkness.  When we know that we have what it takes to move beyond the darkness.  When we have gratitude for the contributions the darkness has made in our life and we are willing to step into a lighter place without a backward glance.

Resolving the darkness is not an invitation to splatter your darkness everywhere all over people through fear, anger, abuse or any other emotion of force... It is an invitation to look at the darkness with awareness,  to remove its power to inflict harm, and allow the insights gained from that process to contribute to a different possibility for the rest of your life.  So what does this mean in practical terms?

Would you have more peace and harmony if you...

• stopped creating friction as a way of proving you are alive and looked for the possibilities of ease and joy?
• focused on what the lightness can contribute instead of what the darkness is not contributing?
• asked the darkness what it could contribute to you if you saw it differently?
• celebrated the darkness and turned on the party lights?
• reviewed everything in your life that is no longer serving you and simply let it go, without having to be 'right' or to explain and justify your choices?
• stopped creating your dreams from a fantasy based on the past, and simply looked at what you desire right now?
• allowed relationships and beliefs that are based in lack, fear and anger to slip quietly away?

I am definitely not suggesting you become a doormat, quite the opposite!  When we allow the darkness to have no power over us, and to contribute the potency it has created within us, we become very clear about what we are choosing.  We set boundaries, we speak up for ourselves and we follow the path that offers peace and harmony, even if we have to climb a couple of boulders along the way.  It is okay to roar!  It is important to be heard.  When you can do this from a space of darkness resolved, rather than the underlying unresolved issue, your potency will not be mistaken as anger! 

Peace and harmony can be created from darkness.  So wherever we see these energies playing out around us, it is up to us to ask 'What energies could I be, do or contribute here that could change this in an instant?'   When we stop contributing to disharmony, much can change... more space and lightness shows up on the inside and the outside!!

As I have followed this process in my own life over the past few weeks and months I have come to see the value in recognising both sides.  All of a sudden we see the 'thing' that keeps us in the spiral pattern of repeating an issue, rather than being able to graciously move into a lighter, more blissful, more joyful reality.  Once we have shone a light onto the 'thing' it can no longer trigger the darkness in us... instead we can wallow in the bliss and sparkle! Simply beautiful!

As we go, so goes the earth.  Every time we shift the darkness we allow more lightness into our beautiful planet.  That lightness both heals and allows for greater transparency in places where there is still unresolved darkness - for us personally and on a global scale... all change truly starts with us!

Have a beautiful Sunday... take a few moments to find some peace within :)
xx
Lisa

Do you realise there is a difference between a fantasy and creating a possibility you truly desire to see in the world?  This short video with Dr Dain Heer gifts you a great tool for not getting stuck in fantasy realities when you would really like to be creating something totally different! 



What would you be willing to see about the possibilities and potentials before you that is not a fantasy that could totally change your life if you would choose to have it?

A couple of weeks ago I had the gift of 4 days with Gary Douglas, Founder of Access Consciousness and wow, did I have my fantasy world rearranged!  I'm so not looking to build castles in the air anymore - it's exhausting!!

Instead I'm looking for the playful creative energy that already exists that allows me to create the changes I wish to see in the world... and that is a totally different feeling to wishing and hoping for something that has no energetic base... that is just a figment of my imagination... we value imagination but what if following the energy of what is possible can actually deliver something much greater than we can imagine?

And you know what else?  When we stop following fantasies and start following the energy of possibilities, all of a sudden there is a whole lot less that is required of us, there is a whole lot more ease and joy and amazing stuff just shows up without us even trying... so how does it get better than that?  Would you be willing to find out??

After all, bliss is simply the energies of love, lightness and joy... so would you like more of that in your life?  It's just a choice to have more consciousness about what you are creating :)

xx Lisa

I woke up this morning with a head full of stuff... so many little things need attention over the next week and I was having a 'where to start' moment!  Because, actually, I didn't feel like working, I felt like messing about in the kitchen... an earlier trip to the Noosa Farmers Markets had put me in the inspiration zone!

One of the fastest ways to find your serenity (besides breathing deeply) is to do something you love.  So, I made some marinated feta... beautiful creamy danish feta, rich fruity virgin olive oil, and some fresh herbs from the garden... 10 minutes of creating bliss for my tastebuds!

Now I can imagine at least 10 luscious things I can do with this feta... and those creative thoughts are going to keep me happy and serene for quite a while (yes, I'm a food lush - just thinking about the possibilities makes me drool deliriously!!)

And now I'm ready to look at what really does require attention today if I want to have a free-flowing productive week!  So if you are looking for a little more serenity in your day... do the thing that will make you drool love and feel nurtured first... and once you feel more than a little bit happy, go and do the thing that really needs your love in this moment... pure bliss - I promise!!

xox
Lisa